Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Fathers. Father' Day, Dead Beat Dads, Child Support

In 5 more days various parts of the world will (in theory) celebrate Fathers' Day. I wonder why. Today about 40% of children are growing up in homes without a father. I have no idea what sort of fathers the other 60% have. I think that it's important for children to have both a father and a mother in the same home. It is 'specially important for a boy to have a full time father. Don't take my word for it. Look up the stats for yourself. Anywhere from 60% to 90% of boys from fatherless homes grow up to be social misfits of one kind or another.

Tat's not to be taken as a negative comment about the mother. I presume that all/most mothers do their best when it comes to raising their children. The fact is that their best simply isn't good enough.

On the other hand, one might ask if a boy isn't better off without a father than to be stuck with the kind of a dad who would just up and walk away from his children. Of course, some mothers a not paragons of virtue either. And then there are the homes where both mother and father are functionally absent. Sometimes it's not altogether the fault of the parents that they can't be fully functioning parents. There are cases where loving parents have to work two jobs each just to keep a roof over the family's head and some food on the table. Many of these working poor depend on grandparents to raise the children.

God knows, there are plenty of dead beat dads, but many of them have been created by modern western society. When a child grows up without proper parenting (by mom and dad, not grandparents) how can they possibly learn to be good parents themselves. They certainly won't learn from TV where most fathers are portrayed as morons without balls whose role is to knuckle down to some radical feminist. And above all they won't learn how to be good parents while growing up in a house with two "mommies" or two "daddies".

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